I watch and hear and read posts about how much everyone loves seeing their children's report cards! All the congratulations all the celebration and all the joy. I do enjoy it and I do celebrate with them! I dread report card time! I HATE IT! My heart aches when report cards come out! I have two children that get great report cards and I have one, we just pray passes! That's all I want is for him to pass! He's a good boy with a fantastic heart and tons of common sense! He's a gentleman and a sweet boy!
I have no complaints about his heart and his general disposition!
We have had a difficult time with school with him. One year ago, he was diagnosed as ADD! This kids is 14, closer to 15, and has just recently been diagnosed! He has spent his school life being disciplined and grounded and hollered at and basically beat up on! All to find out he has ADD and has slipped through the cracks of not only the school but his parents all this time!
I noticed, what I thought was ADD when he was young. I asked the doctor about it and his reply was, he's borderline and you can just treat it with diet and exercise. The kid was home schooled at the time, so it wasn't a big deal. We did spelling tests on the run. We did multiplication tables while doing cartwheels in the front yard and his day of schooling was short, we got it done and moved on! For a couple of years we made it work! Well he went to school and he was ahead, so his grades weren't a problem, his boredom was!
Then everything caught up with him and caught up fast! His Guidance Counselor last year, brought up the ADD! Wow, first time I heard that in awhile! Sure enough, this kid has ADD and the medication turned the school stuff around overnight! Whew!
I thought we were "out of the woods"! Darnedest thing, he grew and grew alot! He goes to the doctor once a year, unless otherwise necessary, turns out he should be going 3 times a year, because of his growth rate! Now, he is suffering in the grades department again!
Good thing is, when I ask his teachers
"is he a discipline problem?"
Their reply is always "no, not at all!"
He asked for a higher dose of medication about 3 months ago and I asked on the phone for a higher dose, but I didn't pursue it and I kinda schlepped him off! I know better than that! I know to listen to him when he's talking about his medication, I know he can "feel" a difference and I know he likes how he feels and performs when he is on the right dose! Stupid Mom, sometimes!!! All I had to do was listen!
Here we are again! Report Cards........yes I watch online........I know what's going on in the grade area.........I don't always know what's going on in his head! Now, I do! Unfortunately, it took a call to the Guidance Counselor to get me thinking strait again. Doctor's appointment Tuesday!
He's not at risk of failing the entire year, but his self-esteem has been placed in question, once again!
My heart aches and I question myself, once again! Why don't I listen!? Why don't I believe him the first time? I think I just want him to be OK all the time and not have this ADD. But he does and I have to accept it and help him with it! It's not just a thing and it's not an excuse! It's real and it's real hard for him, VERY hard, I make it more difficult for him when I don't really hear him!
Report cards are more than just the grades around here!
Note to self: JUST LISTEN, HEAR THEM and BELIEVE THEM! Please!
Prayers, many prayers!
CHRISSY, I HAD THAT PROBLEM WITH KAYLA.... BY THE TIME WE GOT HER HELP SHE WAS SO FAR BEHIND.... I HAD SO MUCH TROUBLE WITH THE LAKE RIDGE SCHOOL SYSTEM.... I HAD THEM TEST HER TO SEE IF SHE WAS ABLE TO GET EXTRA HELP.... THEY TOLD ME THEY FOUND NOTHING.... SO I HAD HER TESTED OUTSIDE THE SCHOOL... AND HE FOUND A MINOR LEARNING DISABILITY CAUSE SHE WAS SO FAR BEHIND.... I TOOK THAT TO THE SCHOOL N THEY TOLD ME SORRY WE CANT HELP.... SAD THING IS THEY GET EXTRA MONEY FROM GOVERNMENT FOR EACH CHILD THEY HELP.... SO I TOOK HER OUT AND PUT HER IN THE HIGHLAND SCHOOL SYSTEM.... THEY TESTED HER AND CAME UP WITH THE SAME THING MY DR DID.... SO THEY STARTED HELPN HER AND SHE DID A COMPLETE TURN AROUND.... THEY HELPED HER ALL THRU SCHOOL.... N HERE WE HAVE TAKS TEST... THAT IS WHAT U CALL ISTEP.... IF U DON'T PASS IT U DON'T GRADUATE.... BUT BECAUSE OF ALL THE HELP WE GOT KAYLA AND HAD WHAT THEY CALL A 504 PLAN IN HER FILE SHE DID NOT HAVE TO TAKE THE TEST.... THE TEACHERS WHO HELPED HER MADE THAT RECOMMENDATION FOR HER NOT TO HAVE TO TAKE IT... PART OF THE HELP WAS IF SHE WAS HAVN TROUBLE SHE WAS ABLE TO GO TO ONE OF THE TEACHERS WHO WORKED WITH HER TO GET HELP ON WHAT SHE DID NOT UNDERSTAND WITH OUT DISTURBING THE CLASS..... SHE WILL ALSO BE ABLE TO GET HELP IN COLLEGE.... SO I KNOW HOW U FEEL... SHE USED TO COME HOME WITH 6 HRS OF HOMEWORK A NIGHT AND WOULD JUS CRY.... I WOULD CRY CAUSE IT BROKE MY HEART TO WATCH HER GO THRU THAT.... PARENTS WHO HAVE KIDS LIKE THIS SHOULD NOT GET OFFENDED WHEN SOMEONE TELLS U THAT UR KID MIGHT HAVE ADD.... US PARENTS THAT HAVE CHILDREN KNOW THE SIGNS.... I WISH HIM ALL THE BEST CAUSE IT IS ROUGH.... BUT THIS KIDS WHO HAVE THIS ARE VERY BRIGHT.... THE DR TOLD ME THAT THEY ALWAYS HAVE A SUBJECT THAT THEY WILL DO BETTER IN THEN THE OTHERS... KAYLA IS A COMPUTER WIZ.... AND ALL THE THE KIDS WITH ADD ARE LIKE THIS... AND YES PARENTS LISTEN TO THEM, HEAR THEM AND MOST OF ALL BELIEVE THEM.... JUS PUT YOURSELF N THEIR SHOES AND SEE WHAT THEY GO THRU... CAUSE IF U DON'T HAVE ADD U HAVE KNOE IDEA WHAT THEY GO THRU.....
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