I watch and hear and read posts about how much everyone loves seeing their children's report cards! All the congratulations all the celebration and all the joy. I do enjoy it and I do celebrate with them! I dread report card time! I HATE IT! My heart aches when report cards come out! I have two children that get great report cards and I have one, we just pray passes! That's all I want is for him to pass! He's a good boy with a fantastic heart and tons of common sense! He's a gentleman and a sweet boy!
I have no complaints about his heart and his general disposition!
We have had a difficult time with school with him. One year ago, he was diagnosed as ADD! This kids is 14, closer to 15, and has just recently been diagnosed! He has spent his school life being disciplined and grounded and hollered at and basically beat up on! All to find out he has ADD and has slipped through the cracks of not only the school but his parents all this time!
I noticed, what I thought was ADD when he was young. I asked the doctor about it and his reply was, he's borderline and you can just treat it with diet and exercise. The kid was home schooled at the time, so it wasn't a big deal. We did spelling tests on the run. We did multiplication tables while doing cartwheels in the front yard and his day of schooling was short, we got it done and moved on! For a couple of years we made it work! Well he went to school and he was ahead, so his grades weren't a problem, his boredom was!
Then everything caught up with him and caught up fast! His Guidance Counselor last year, brought up the ADD! Wow, first time I heard that in awhile! Sure enough, this kid has ADD and the medication turned the school stuff around overnight! Whew!
I thought we were "out of the woods"! Darnedest thing, he grew and grew alot! He goes to the doctor once a year, unless otherwise necessary, turns out he should be going 3 times a year, because of his growth rate! Now, he is suffering in the grades department again!
Good thing is, when I ask his teachers
"is he a discipline problem?"
Their reply is always "no, not at all!"
He asked for a higher dose of medication about 3 months ago and I asked on the phone for a higher dose, but I didn't pursue it and I kinda schlepped him off! I know better than that! I know to listen to him when he's talking about his medication, I know he can "feel" a difference and I know he likes how he feels and performs when he is on the right dose! Stupid Mom, sometimes!!! All I had to do was listen!
Here we are again! Report Cards........yes I watch online........I know what's going on in the grade area.........I don't always know what's going on in his head! Now, I do! Unfortunately, it took a call to the Guidance Counselor to get me thinking strait again. Doctor's appointment Tuesday!
He's not at risk of failing the entire year, but his self-esteem has been placed in question, once again!
My heart aches and I question myself, once again! Why don't I listen!? Why don't I believe him the first time? I think I just want him to be OK all the time and not have this ADD. But he does and I have to accept it and help him with it! It's not just a thing and it's not an excuse! It's real and it's real hard for him, VERY hard, I make it more difficult for him when I don't really hear him!
Report cards are more than just the grades around here!
Note to self: JUST LISTEN, HEAR THEM and BELIEVE THEM! Please!
Prayers, many prayers!