Monday's are not all created the same.......

Monday night, dinner out with hubby at my favorite restaurant. Get to go with a good friend and grill his new girlfriend. In-laws watch all the kids and bed before 9pm! That is a good Monday!!!!

Thanks

Trying to get back to normal. Thanks so much to everyone for all the prayers for myself and for others!
I am feeling much much better, still not 100% but still much better. The one thing that I did notice in between all my sleeping was how stinking grouchy I was! A real reminder that I wasn't feeling well and neither me or my body could handle anymore! I did go back in to work on Thursday and I did fine! Now I go back to work Monday morning. Not only do I need to get used to getting up in the early morning again but now I would rather sleep a little later to get through the worst part of the morning. Oh well, such as life and I will get used to days again quickly!!
I tried to move around more this weekend than I had during the week so by Saturday night when I thought I would disappear to my room to watch TV that I wanted to watch, the last thing I remember was the clock saying 9:30 and then I saw the clock this morning around 6AM. So much for watching my TV shows!! Good thing is the "off" button in my butt still works!

Being a Newly Wed Wasn't Always Easy

She walked in the front door and I could see the hurt on her face..maybe she wasn't feeling well? I waited to see if she would tell me what was going on or how she was feeling...
Nothing.....just small talk.
I couldn't wait anymore so I asked, "are you OK, is everything alright?"
her reply was "I'm fine, maybe a little sick"
"OK, if that is all it is, I hope you feel better soon"
Our conversation moves to small talk and silliness, but I can still see hurt in her eyes. All I can think is how can I help? I know that look on her face, I know that in some way I have been in her place, how do you help when someone doesn't want it?
After a while, something in our conversation brought out part of an issue or hurt that was on her mind, so I continue to listen to what is going on this young woman's life. She is a newly wed, very newly wed and should be thrilled and enjoying her new life (not always true, but what I would like to believe). She is truly hurting and feels bad that she is hurting.
My experience as a newly wed was not all peaches and roses either (my memories all come back!) We jump into marriage thinking it is going to be perfect but we need to work at perfection and sometimes it just hurts.
How many times have women been here? Feeling as though maybe we are wrong for having our feelings hurt or being upset by something that happened and not having our feelings validated?
I'm not talking about abuse or abandonment, I am talking about the part of learning to be married and how to deal with each other at first and how it hurts so bad to feel alone in a marriage even though our spouses actually feel alone also!!!
I want to jump in and fix everything for her and I can't all I can do is offer a hug and a few words of advice:
Enjoy a Date night with your Husband.
Keep close friends
Enjoy reading
Enjoy being alone with you (once in a while)
Confide in your husband, do not stop talking to him, love him enough to let him in
Your feelings are real and emotions are a gift
Sometimes husbands don't hear us the same way our friends hear us and it is OK to confide in a good friend!
Pray

As a friend to me Pray for my friend, she really is learning how to be a new wife and how to be so many things at once. I almost forgot how hard the first couple years of marriage were until I saw her face, sometimes it really hurts just to have feelings!

P.S.
I know there were times I wish I could have been numb. However, later in life I am so thankful for those feelings early on and that I wasn't numb and that I didn't toughen up! Thank God

"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me." (2 Cor. 12:9)

Back to Work???

Dayquil, cough drops and tea in hand I am going back in to work tonight. No, I am not back to being well, but I am a little better! So here I go! Yes, I am going in on my last midnight for a while! I think I will be fine if I get up and move around. Doc says I can get my flu shot in about two weeks!!! YOU better believe I am so there!!!

It is supposed to be Tales from the Scales....

I have been down except to go to work since Sunday!! I even called off or laid off last night (railroaders don't lay off)!! When my temp shot to 103.3 I knew there was an issue. My temp was at 101.4 and I took some Tylenol, thinking that would bring it down, 1 hr later burning up even more I took my temp again and that's when it skyrocketed!! Thank God for good family! My mom and husband have been here both Monday and Tuesday all day!! I holler out for more blankets and suddenly they appear, my 7-up glass stays full and don't ask what the kids are doing cause all I know is that I see them for a split second here and there! Wouldn't you know that I have my appointment to get my flu shot today!!!! I hate that!
Needless to say, I am not weighing in this week, it would not be truthful, if I lost it wouldn't be accurate if I gained it would be because I just lay around except to go to work! The goal for next week is to be able to weigh in and get back on track, feel better and even feel strong enough to workout!!!
At least I do have a Doc appt. today maybe I'll get something to get this thing gone faster!!
A little prayer would help more than anything!
Thanks
Chrissy

I told you I had an opinion....

As I said in my previous post, trick or treating and Halloween was fun, a true success!

One thing that came to my mind and truly touched my heart while walking with the kids was the "sense of community" that was displayed and has been displayed each year, I can remember it from my childhood. It is the only time of the year when all the kids or most of the kids and their families come out of their houses at the same time for a short period. As you walk along the streets or hand out candy to all the trick-or-treaters it is a time to catch up with other families, a quick hello or a smile and a nod and what about meeting the new neighbors! This is the only time of year something like this takes place!

It is funny that this year I walked and most years I hand out candy so I saw the other side of it this year. I was amazed and truly blessed by the time spent with my community! The time when I would walk with someone for a while and chat and watch the kids and compliment on their costumes or try to figure out who it was or say hello to the one handing out candy and then move on to the next group and walk with them for a minute and catch up or when I met the new neighbor that I didn't even know moved in or the Grandmas and Grandpas that live in the neighborhood who just wanted to hear a child laugh and run and enjoy them even for a split second! It was a moment of belonging to my neighborhood or part of a community and celebrating community with them! I am one those who will not trick-or-treat in other neighborhoods, we go in our own or to Grandma and Papaw's (where my husband grew up) because it is a time to celebrate life and children with my own community!

Now, I have always allowed my children to trick-or-treat, I have never stopped them and they always enjoy it! There have been years where I have been "beat-up" for allowing my family to join in this thing! I never felt Halloween or trick-or-treating was wrong, I loved it when I was a kid and still love it now! Most years I even dress up. There have been a couple years where I actually missed trick-or-treat in my neighborhood, because of other commitments, but my children never have! I am not sure what all the "hoopla" is over why or why not let kids trick-or-treat. You know, I don't really even enjoy the scary part of Halloween or the blood and guts of it, but some do and for them it is ok, I am not going to tell them how wrong they are for doing it because I don't like it or don't understand why they like it!! This Halloween thing is very normal for me and when I was ridiculed for allowing my family to "celebrate" (GASP) it really didn't make sense, all it did do, was hurt my feelings, because to others that don't like it, I was hurting my children. I remember my son actually said to me (5 yrs ago) "I heard Halloween was the devil's Birthday". I had to back him up and explain to him how it wasn't and we were not "bad people" because we enjoy this! Talk about hurt, as a mom, when my child is hurt, I hurt more!

That all being said, there is definitely a time and a place for everything, I would have never stood up in the middle of a church that preaches against Halloween and say forget family fun night let's go trick or treating, or I am not going to help with that on Halloween, and I wouldn't put it in front of one of my friends who really doesn't like it, I really just wouldn't talk about it, it isn't nice!

If this post did hurt your feelings, that isn't what it was meant for, it was to enlighten on my type of thinking and I don't believe it is right for all!! If it changed the way you think of me, "GET OVER IT" I am still the same person I have been!!

To sum it up, what is right for me may not be right for you or vise versa, but don't beat up on me because I make a different choice!

POWER BLOGGING

So many things to catch up on that I think I am going to "Power Blog"

Here it goes:

BLOGGING AWARD:

Jen at More than a Single Mom has awarded me with this:

And let me just say how honored I am. Like everyone else, I do enjoy winning stuff. To honor the blogging award given to me by More than a Single Mom (I think you should go check her out) I will pass it on to:

M*O*M (Mom on a Mission) she'll make you think, make you laugh, make you cry!!

Milk & Honey (she is the HONEY) Sweet, kind and making you think add a little funny and a ton of Sassy and you have Milk & Honey!!

Tales from the Scales

GOAL!! Well partially, but so taking it as a victory. Broke 180, not by much but down to 179. Didn't make it to the gym at all, so not like me! This crazy shift, is what I am blaming that on! Goal for next week: Going out on a limb: 4lbs. (that will be 175lbs) workout 3 times, 2 times will be an extra good workout! I have not been totally strict and I think I will try it this week, just a little!

Next on the agenda:

Pumpkin contest: Windy and Mitchell both received their awards of 3rd place. Although, I wish I could have gone to the judges and said: My kids thought of this all by themselves and the only way I or anyone could help them was to pour paint! But you can't share that information with the judges! You would think they could tell who created all by themselves and who had help (there is a family category)!

On to Halloween!

Just to get out the pictures. I will post more on this very soon! As you can imagine I have an opinion, a strong opinion and I want to share! It was a good Halloween and who would have ever thought that the Harley Coat I have held on to all these years (1987) would have come in handy!! Still a reason to hold on to it!!
A great Halloween lots of fun, lots of family and a true feeling of community all in one night. One question.... Why doesn't anyone just hand out one piece of candy anymore? It is always a handful!! I am also guilty of this, but when and why did that change? The loot bags were too full, I'll be sharing at work!!

WHEW!!! Now consider that a power blog!! I think I am caught up!