My New Year's Resolution, is to become a better friend!! I know I have mentioned this several times, but it is an ongoing goal, probably one I can do better at all the time, just like being a good wife or mom or woman. Anyway, I pray about friendship alot and what it means and the direction and guidance to be better at it. I know, that being a better friend will also help with my mommy thing and wife thing and woman thing, because if your a good friend you are indeed a good person.
Anyway, I have many many good friends and as I was driving home this morning and praying and thinking and remembering, I remembered the memories that really spoke to me at the time and want to share them!
I have a friend Heather, I didn't get to pick her out a school or through my kids friends, it was the neatest thing, God moved her in the house right next door to mine! I pounced on her, I had been praying for a young couple to move in next door, I only had Adam and Windy and they were 3 and under 1 year, respectively! I was so thrilled I went over and introduced myself and we have been best of friends ever since!
Living Next door to someone you really get to know them and you do crazy stuff and you tell more than you would have if they lived further away! Of course they can see it all for themselves!
Heather was my next door neighbor that became an awesome friend! We did crazy stuff together (when our husbands were at work) we would talk on the phone all day and be right next door! Then there were the days when we would decide to paint something! 4 kids between us under 5 and we would paint in the time the hubbys were at work! It would never be finished before they got home, but we would sure try (EVERY TIME)! Kids would run through the paint and instead of one us watching the kids while the other one painted, we would just do it all together! Looking back, it wasn't the best way to get stuff done, but it was the best way to bond and make a great friendship! Or we would rearrange furniture while hubbys were at work and kids and all!
We would sit outside and watch each others kids, while one of us would change a load of laundry and change places again! One of us would start dinner while the other one watched the kids and then we would change places!
I learned alot from Heather, new words, new ways to speak to my children and a new openness with women and how time, quality time, really makes the difference! A new kind of friendship, the kind you would call and tell about one of the kids "firsts" or the one you would call to complain about the husband or complain about how one of the kids did something wrong and she never held it against me or them! That's the kind of friend I am striving to be!
I remember she was the first one I called, when I found out I was pregnant with Mitchell (not planned by me) and she cried with me about being pregnant, I was so disappointed and she was there with me every step of the way, whether it was crying, acceptance, laughter, joy and she was the one who helped me bring him in and be such a proud mommy of three! She never held it against me (that I was disappointed at first), she just loved me through it all, and (gosh, my family would have never been complete without Mitchey) and was just there for whatever mood I was in! I just love good friends like her!
She was there when I wanted to be angry, happy, sad, loving, joyful!
Good friends are there when life happens and changes and stays the same! I have lots of friends like that! Heather, she's special, I get to enjoy her being a sister, I got to watch it from next door and I even got included! I love that! She was there, when my heart was smashed by someone I thought was a friend, she even cleaned up the beer mug I knocked over on floor, when I was venting! She never held it against me, she just loved me!
That's the qualities I strive for, in becoming a better friend!
I am blessed with so many good friends and have tons of good memories to blog about, I think that that is my next two weeks of blogs! Good friends I want to be like!
Ok, one last quick memory with Heather.
I was baking for Christmas and using dark chocolate! Mitchell couldn't have been more than two! I turned around to get a chunk of chocolate and it was GONE! I looked and searched and then I looked into the living room and there was Mitchell chomping on dark chocolate as fast as he could in the Green Lazyboy! Did I go get him and get the chocolate or did I pick up the phone laughing and call Heather to tell her that Mitchell belonged to her? I picked up the phone to tell Heather, that Mitchell loves chocolate and could not possibly belong in the Witt family!
Yes, she also taught me how to laugh again, instead of being so strict and this is this and this is why we do this! She taught me to laugh at the funny stuff and enjoy my children and she reminded me, that I am a mom and not a boot camp!
Heather taught me so much about being a person, I don't know where I'd be today without her!
Love you Heather!
I am so blessed with great friends!